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Shyness or Social Anxiety – You Feel like the only person in the world like this. The problem is this… fear… & low self image. – You just want to be & feel happy and normal in the social side of your life.

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Who is the Creator?

The amazing individual reading this ,

My name’s Emily, I’m from Brisbane, Australia. I’m a student of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (C.B.T) in The School Of Natural Health Sciences. I am recovering from Severe Social Anxiety Disorder myself, not just S.A.D but Severe S.A.D so I have very intimate experience and knowledge of what Social Anxiety is like.

What has helped me is learning about and overcoming my unhelpful thoughts and beliefs. This is what I’m still doing, and sharing with you! on twitter, youtube, facebook, & this website!

I’m telling you to stop telling yourself you can’t get better because I know you can. The starting point of my recovery was to JUST BELIEVE I could get completely better, even though I didn’t know HOW. So please believe you can overcome S.A as much as you’d like!

I’m motivated to help people with S.A because I have experienced the incredible pain it brings many times in my life. I don’t want you going through this pain if I can help in some way!

S.A.D has been so much of my life. Isolation, depression, loneliness, hopelessness, panic attacks, terror & dread to the point of feeling physically sick, incredibly low self esteem.

I have improved, am still improving, and I’m a different person to a few years ago.

What’s Social Anxiety?

Anxiety to me means regular & often fear & worry.

So Social Anxiety means Fear & Worry that happens regularly & often about the Social part of their life.

And Social Anxiety Disorder?

I think Disorder means Social Anxiety out of order… your life hobbies, education, or earning of an income being disabled.

With my knowledge, Social Anxiety Disorder is the fear of social situations, certain people, & negative thoughts about them-self from other people. This is accompanied by deep, irrational & damaging beliefs in their mind.

People with S.A.D hide their real self &/or avoid certain people & social situations.

Effects:

Painful Emotional difficulty with possible physical symptoms during, or avoidance of:

School
University
Work
Being the Center Of Attention with anything
Giving Speeches
Introductions
Talking About Them-Self
Any Social Get-Togethers or Social Gatherings any place real or virtual (Shops, Parties, Using the phone, Internet Chatrooms etc)

Avoidance is because of intense emotional difficulty & unwell physical symptoms.

People with S.A.D can’t escape their fear since it includes the fear of other peoples negative thoughts & judgments about them-self, which could be happenning at any time. Since they cannot escape their fear day or night, imagine the distress they can experience.

Possible Consequences:

Loss of living up to potential in life
Lack of participation
Unable to ask questions
Unable to act on opportunities
Not having any or many friends
Difficulty with or no relationship/s
Not reaching their potential in, or lack of, job / career.

This disability can lead to a lower quality of life.

People with S.A.D often have Depression.

Very Low Self Esteem seems to be a large part of S.A.D.

At the lowest point many people with S.A.D think of Suicide. I hear people describe the experience of S.A.D as “hell” & I have described the low points as “emotional torture”.

Symptoms they may get in social situations / When thinking they have been negatively thought about by another person:

Blushing
Sweating
Nausea
Shaking
Trembling

Inability to speak
Stuttering
Stumbling with words or sentences
Going cold or feeling cold
Going Pale

Tense body
Tight throat
Tight chest
Feeling or being paralyzed and unable to move, their whole body, or parts of their body
Short, shallow breathing

Thumping, fast beating heart
De-realization
Sudden overwhelming “Waves” of shock and paralysis through their body
Uncontrollable teariness or crying
Having a Panic attack

Memory Loss / Mind Blank
Falling or Tripping more easily
Dropping things more easily

The common emotions that people with [generalized] S.A.D may be so used to it just feels like “how I normally feel” :

Anxiety
Fear
Dread
Panic
Sadness
Depression
Embarrassment
Humiliation
Shame
Guilt
Anger
Jealousy and Envy

And perhaps… at least some times, feelings that don’t have a name. Like,

“Unbearably Worthless, Ashamed, Broken, Destroyed, and Humiliated”

Other Descriptions of S.A.D:
suffocated, trapped, dead, beaten, suppressed, like they are trapped inside them-self, like their body is a cage or a prison, hopelessness, helplessness, paralyzed, stuck

Since their fear is of negative thoughts about them-self from other people, people with S.A.D are THE EXPERTS of hiding their S.A from others! This can lead to problems. Some people may not believe they are ill, or as ill as they are. Their self esteem may then worsen as they believe that they are a flawed, terrible (insert many degrading self-insults) person instead of it being an illness… or suffer in silence.

A Playlist of music suggested by people on the Internet with S.A that represents S.A:

There’s Millions of people in the world with Social Anxiety. But due to it’s nature of the Sufferers fear of exposing who they really are & being them self, it does not get talked about openly much. There are probably people you have come into contact with in your life who are secretly going through this.

Using This Website

Music & Quotes on Every Page - A Playlist with healing & empowering songs is on every page of the website – It’s a light blue playlist in the sidebar to the left. Also in the sidebar to the left & available on every page of the website is a large collection of rotating quotes & empowering affirmations. All for you!

Here’s some of the most powerful ideas that have helped me – please click one of the articles below!

1. Think, ‘It seems most aspects of my anxiety are so deepset it feels like my personality’ ?

2. Social Anxiety Sufferers May Have This Inaccurate Self Identity

3. High School With Social Anxiety Disorder

4. Social Anxiety Sufferers May Regard People Too Highly

5. Making Small Talk

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